They picked me up at 7:10 in the evening – just outside English Village in front of the giant Stonehenge replica, still an unexpected sight in the quiet hills of South Korea. They opened their car door and ushered me towards them with a friendly wave. I hopped in and we were off!
Where were we going, you may ask? To the local Paju City meeting of my buddhist group, Soka Gakkai International. I am grateful for my English-speaking connections and SGI friends in Seoul. But from time to time… I get invited to a local meeting in Paju and it is always an adventure.
When they pick me up, I am never quite sure where we are going… it is a simple act of trust really. We make an agreement to meet at a certain time and then they take me… wherever it is we need to go… wherever the meeting is. I get a small glimpse of feeling a bit more “normal” in Paju, traveling by car through the regular roads and life of local folks. On the way there we pick up one, no two more people, and now there are five of us tucked into the back seat like a bunch of teenagers out for the evening.
A kind face turns to me and offers some friendly words in Korean. After a years and a half submerged in the all English world of English Village, I have nothing to offer her. I smile. I shrug my shoulders. She talks more slowly and uses her hands. While well intentioned, it doesn’t help. I still don’t understand Korean.
In no time we arrive at the meeting and I follow the rush of bodies loading into the elevator. We find our way to a member’s apartment where most guests are seated on the floor, Korean style. Koreans know that foreigners don’t do the floor very well and I am no exception. I am escorted to a prime seat on the couch and me, my knees and my back are grateful.
Mostly, no one speaks English at the meeting. So I sit and smile and look and listen. I watch with admiration as the meeting is run so efficiently, packed with information, intent and interest and not a moment wasted. People stand, share and everyone laughs. I turn to ask, “what did she say?” and realize there is no one there who can answer this.
A near-by member, also on the couch, offers an olive branch. There is a small paragraph written in English that summarizes the reading for the evening. He shares it with me, smiles and says, “understand.” I nod and am grateful for his English word.
The message of the reading is a reminder to “pray as earnestly as though to produce fire from damp wood.” I love it and have some inspiration to take home to my daily practice.
As the meeting neatly comes to an end, just a well-packed hour later, everyone stands and prepares to leave. I am met by wonderful faces and smiles. The leaders greet me with their kind eyes and tug onto my hand as we share in our own language our wish to communicate. But still, in earnest, it is nice to communicate in other ways too… the silent ways of smiles and eyes and kind touch.
As we prepare to leave, my couch mate offers his friendly smile and we take a picture together. Without hesitation, he zips it off to my phone electronically. But there is no time to wait as my escort is shuffling me towards the door and I feel I must keep up or lose my ride. And so, I keep my eyes on them like a hawk as they lead me out and to their car amidst the many bodies departing.
A few minutes and a comfortable ride later I am home after my brief immersion into K-SGI. I offer thank you in Korean, among the few simple words that I know. I depart and they are off… almost as quickly as they came.
I check my phone to find a copy of the picture from the evening sent via text. I respond a quick, “thanks!” to which I receive the reply, “No problem. We are friends. We are SGI members.”
And so is the beauty of community. Anywhere in the world. Whether we do or don’t speak the same language. While I am someone with hermit-like tendencies and often happy with huge helpings of autonomy, I am also grateful for these snippets of connection and community. Like a warm light in the night-time sky.
I returned to my apartment… happy to be home but also altered in a small way after my interlude in connection and the shared joy and power of the people and practice of Korea Soka Gakkai International.
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Featured photo: Enjoying a quiet moment before class surrounded by the morning light and summer green of the surrounding hillside.